Recognizing Abusive Behavior

If you are or think you might be at risk to sexually, emotionally, or physically abuse another person, there are many resources available to you, these resources can help you better understand your behavior and prevent you from hurting others.

We’re glad you are interested in learning more about what you can do to help stop abusive behavior. There are campus and community resources that offer information, help, treatment, and support for maintaing healthy relationships and behavior. The first step is recognizing your abusive behavior. Use the following questions to reflect on your own relationships. 

Are you being abusive? 

  • Do you constantly check up on your partner with emails, calls, texts, or IMs?
  • Do you accuse your partner of cheating or lying to you?
  • Are you extremely jealous or possessive? 
  • Do you stop your partner from seeing friends or having a life outside of your relationship?
  • Have you hit, kicked, shoved, or thrown things at your partner?
  • Do you criticize or insult your partner?
  • Do you become agressive or verbally abusive when you use drugs or alcohol?
  • Have you ever forced someone to have sex with you through physical force, threats, or coercion?
  • Have you ever threatened your partner with physical harm?
  • Have you threatened to hurt yourself or someone else if your partner ends the relationship?

If you answered yes to these questions, you may be exhibiting abusive behaviors that are putting your partner and others around you at risk for physical and/ or emotional harm. Recognizing that you are being abusive can be difficult but there are resources to help you develop healthier behaviors and attitudes. 

Resources for more information and intervention and educational services for those who abuse:

NU University Health and Counseling Services

Jane Doe Inc. The Massachusetts Coaltion Against Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence:

Emerge: Counseling and Education to Stop Domestic Violence

Batterer's Intervention Services in Massachusetts:

MASOC (Massachusetts Adolescent Sex Offender Coalition):

MATSA (Massachusetts Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abuser):

ATSA (Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers – national):

Information from Jane Doe Inc. and Emerge: Counseling and Education to Stop Domestic Violence