Recognizing Constructive Religion
Interfaith Dialogue Guidelines
Guidelines for Creating Healthy Interfaith Dialogue at NU and beyond; We encourage students and others at NU to use or modify these "Ground Rules for Multi-Faith Dialogue at NU," which are currently in use at our interfaith activities. They can help create a "safe space" for genuine respectful dialogue and cooperation among people of all faiths, spiritualities and paths. Prepared by the Director of the Center for Spirituality, Dialogue and Service, in collaboration with various University communities, these guidelines have been used at NU since 2004.
- "Tolerance, acceptance and support" - We will come with open minds, open hearts, and open spirits into this group. We will support one another as brothers and sisters, even in our differences.
- "Respect for ourselves and one another" - We will disagree on points of faith and spirituality. That is a given. In doing so, we will neither surrender our self-hood to the group, nor will we treat any person, religion, faith system, or lack thereof, with disdain or disrespect.
- "No proselytizing or attempts to convert others" - While holding our own beliefs dear, and sharing them freely and honestly with others, we will never try to dissuade another from his or her faith or uncertainty in/ lack of faith, or try to bring others over to our religion. We will work to make this group a safe place for all, where we can learn and teach with no hidden agendas.
- We will let the group know if we "can't go there" - If a group activity or behavior involves a true level of discomfort for any of us, especially as relates to breaking with the tenets of our faith, we will immediately let the group know, and that limitation will be accepted absolutely.
- Responsibility - We are responsible for our own actions, and will take responsibility for hurtful things we may say or do. We also acknowledge that we're not responsible for the actions of others, even if we feel like we are. We realize that others may inadvertently call tenets of our faith into question, without desiring to insult us or our religious beliefs, and that we can embrace such moments as opportunities for building greater understanding among ourselves.
- Confidentiality - Understanding that opening ourselves to others in discussion makes us vulnerable to one another, we will respect the private needs of one another. Our mutual trust is protected by knowing that whatever we say in the group will stay in the group.
- Everyone is important in this group - We will each do our best to neither dominate conversation, nor to avoid sharing ourselves and our thoughts with the group. We will be willing both to talk and to listen yet, knowing that we may each go through challenging periods in our lives, we will not demand more of another member than he or she is able to offer, and will respect another's need for silence.