Boston teens got a solid piece of advice for dealing with break-​​ups last week: “Face it, don’t Face­book it.”

At the second annual Break-​​Up Summit, orga­nized by the Boston Public Health Commission’s (BPHC) Start Strong Ini­tia­tive in part­ner­ship with North­eastern Uni­ver­sity, teens dis­cussed healthy ways to end rela­tion­ships, such as com­mu­ni­cating in person rather than via text mes­sage or social net­working sites.

The event stressed that break-​​ups could happen in ways that were not trau­matic or destruc­tive – some­thing many teens said they had never even con­sid­ered before the session.

Before last summer, I didn’t even know there was such a thing as a healthy break-​​up,” said one teen, describing her expe­ri­ence at last summer’s Break-​​Up Summit during an opening video for the day­long event, held last week in Northeastern’s Curry Stu­dent Center.

Casey Cor­coran, director of the Start Smart Ini­tia­tive, said the some 200 teens in atten­dance from Boston and the sur­rounding areas could learn impor­tant lessons they could then share with the friends, hope­fully prompting a change in teen dating cul­ture. Too many turn to the Internet after a rela­tion­ship ends, spreading gossip and mis­truths about an ex.

Why we’re here is because people are not talking about break-​​ups as much as we should be. We kind of know the answer why, and it kind of falls on us as adults. We have not done a good enough job talking about break-​​ups, sharing our own expe­ri­ences and the skills that lead to healthy break-​​ups,” Cor­coran said. “If you’re someone who wants to be engaged in a com­mitted and healthy rela­tion­ship, that also means that you should be engaged and com­mitted to healthy break-​​ups.”

One ses­sion, led by mod­er­ator Darrus Sands of the BPHC, asked teens to answer poll ques­tions about their rela­tion­ships via text mes­sage, with the results updated on a large screen.

In response to one ques­tion, two-​​thirds said they did not have strong exam­ples of a healthy break-​​up from their com­mu­ni­ties or pop­ular cul­ture. Just a frac­tion said they ended rela­tion­ships in person, with many more saying they ended through social net­working sites like Face­book and Twitter, with word passed by a friend, or some other indi­rect method.

Shan Mohammed, an asso­ciate clin­ical pro­fessor in the Bouvé Col­lege of Health Ser­vices, said hosting the event fits in with Northeastern’s ongoing work to pro­mote healthy behav­iors in Boston and other urban areas.

We think this is a phe­nom­enal project and each of you plays an impor­tant role in keeping your­self healthy, keeping your fam­i­lies healthy, and keeping your com­mu­ni­ties healthy,” Mohammed said at start of the summit.